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♥ a Cornell-Hotelie.
♥ Proudly taken by Andy Ha.
♥ a BIG time foodie
♥ a bit cat crazy
♥ sometimes called adinadonut or adinasaur!
You should talk to me. I like talking. and people. especially the nonsensical/whimsical/silly kind.
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Five Valentine’s Day tips from 800 of America’s wisest couples
Karl Pillemer, a gerontologist in Cornell University’s College of Human Ecology, has spent the last three years surveying over 800 older people about love, relationships and marriage. Many respondents had been married 30 or more years – including some who tied the knot 60 or 70 years ago. They shared some secrets – just in time for Valentine’s Day – for keeping the spark alive in a love relationship.
Make your relationship a safe haven from work. All too often, attempts to be romantic are spoiled by the “spill-over” of work issues into a couple’s life. What good is a romantic dinner with candles, music, and good wine if your partner’s mind is on a fight with the boss or work left undone? Francis, age 66, made this decision with her husband, “When you leave work, leave work at work!” The elders urge you to create a conscious time buffer between work and home. Think, a la Star Trek, of a decontamination chamber before you enter the ship. One key step? Disconnect when you get home from work. According to the experts, staying connected 24/7 to work via your laptop, tablet, or smartphone is one of the biggest romance-killers.
Keep your sense of humor. According to the elders, humor is the great stress-buster. When things in a relationship get tough, joking about them has almost magical properties to bring an out-of-sync couple back into equilibrium. Jordan, age 94, says about his 66-year marriage, “We laugh at most everything. I try to turn everything into a joke and she really laughs. If I think of something that I know is ludicrous for the argument we’re in, but it’s funny, she’ll laugh about it and I find it calms things over.”
Try one of your partner’s interests. The elders pointed out that sometimes we can be disparaging about our spouse’s hobby we don’t share. The long and happily married elders suggest a different approach: join in. They ask: What’s more important – how you spend your leisure time or your marriage? If it’s the latter, and they hope it is, then try out your partner’s interest. Molly, age 71, was a “golf widow” for decades – staying behind while her husband spent his weekends on the links. Finally, she got tired of being resentful and decided to take action, “I learned to play golf! My husband was tickled and said, ‘When I retired that is what I want to do is go on a vacation and play golf and you needed to learn so that you can play with me.’ Now that is what we do. It keeps each other content and happy.”
Don’t go to bed angry. Almost everyone happily married 50 or more years recommends that you resolve your differences before you get in bed at night. They believe there is something just plain wrong abut seething with disappointment, resentment, even fury in the most intimate of spaces. Debra, age 87, who is in “the happiest marriage I could ever imagine,” tells us to put our anger to bed before we get there. “Even though you don’t agree, you can say, ‘Well gee, honey, maybe we can work something out in the morning. Let’s have a good night’s rest and then talk about what the differences are and see how we can come together in the middle somewhere.’”
Go on a lifetime date. Leigh, age 70, has a wonderful tip that can shift your thinking about what a long relationship should be. “We made an agreement when we got married. We decided we would have a lifetime date. That was really a wonderful way to frame our relationship. Because you think: Oh, I’m on a date! I’ve got to plan fun things and keep the positive emphasized. So we have had a lifetime date and that’s worked out really well.” That idea sums up the elders’ advice for creating a relationship in which the spark stays alive. Never forget what life was like when you were dating – and keep that spirit for a lifetime.
Date a man who dreams.
Date a man who doesn’t spend his money on drink, or clothes, or video games, but saves what he has to go on adventures and pursue his dreams. He might have problems dealing with everyday things but no-one sees the possibilities life holds like he does. This is a man who…
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Happy *actual* one year anniversary andy!
For those of you who care…lol and actually read this, i promise it’ll be actually sort of interesting.
So those of you who know me, may not actually know how I met my boyfriend (I watch too much HIMYM <3)
I actually met him for the first time in person one year ago today!
Making today..our actual one year anniversary not on August 16th which is just the first day we talked :o
You might be like, whaat/I don’t get this/this is stupid/get on with it.
Well, I met my boyfriend online.
No, not on a dating site. Not through mutual friends. Basically not through anything you should meet your future significant other on.
I met him on ChatRoulette
And i’ve heard of similar stories online… but really, even I’m still shocked by how I met my lovely boyfriend.
August 16th was the day before I went to Cornell. I had a messy summer (that I never want to think about again) and was way too excited about college to sleep.
I really couldn’t wait to get out of little ol’ Fort Lee
So there I was on Chatroulette skipping through the many penises, weirdos and what not, until i finally landed on a cat.
Yes, a cat. And I have a cat so I was all like WOAH. Brought my cat MaiTai and thought maybe they could have a secret convo together.
Seriously. It was like 1am, it’s chatroulette and I wanted to be silly.
Anyway…Behind this beautiful tabby (Carly in the above picture) was my soon to be boyfirend Andy.
We talked for hours and it was nearing 5 am and since my dad wakes up around 6, I knew I had to go soon.
But I had so much fun that I really didn’t want to miss the chance of losing contact with this absolute stranger. So i thought why not, and I gave him my number.
Before I continue…
I really am so thankful for our relationship. I consider it fate even, that we met the way we did.
My internet connection had been so shoddy specifically that night (because of a severed line outside :o) that I wasn’t even able to keep a solid connection for more than 10-15 minutes at a time. But i was able to talk to Andy for 4 straight hours that night.
Moving on. We talked, texted, and webcammed every single night on Google Hangout until a couple months in I knew we were at that point in our friendship…where we were already more than friends.
So I was being all ballsy again and asked him to be my boyfriend :D!
Then…sometime in early November I did something even crazier. I decided I wanted to see him during my December break.
And I did! December 15th, I took a plane and met Andy Ha, the Vietnamese boy from Indiana who basically changed my entire life.
It was nerve wracking and so exciting at the same time when I first saw him as I was going down on the escalator at the airport.
It’s a feeling I’ll never forget.
I stayed with him for a month + and have only been together in person 2 more times after that.
It’s crazy even when I think about it. It’s been over a year since we’ve been together and it’s really just the beginning to our relationship and a whole new chapter in both our lives.
Hopefully when we’re both done with school, distance won’t be so much of an issue. But webcamming every single night isn’t so bad in the meanwhile :)
We know each other so well, and I don’t care what people might think about our relationship.
They can call me young, dumb, whatever. But only time will tell right?
I’m proud, in love, and old enough to make my own decisions so woo!
I love you Andy Ha :) Em yêu anh Andy!
I want to look back at these moments years from now and be able to laugh at how silly this was.
Best thing I’ve heard all day.
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face she inquired, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The answers called out ranged from 8oz to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If i hold it for a minute, its not a problem. If i hold it for an hour, i’ll have an ache in my arm. If i hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer i hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stress and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them for a big longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed - incapable of doing anything.” Always remember to put the glass down.